My son has been sick – for what seems like forever. We are now in our 6th week of what started out as a flu or cold. It’s not Covid – and it’s not pneumonia; it seems most likely it’s bronchitis. This cough doesn’t want to budge either. For the past week now he’s had to resort to sleeping on the couch so that he can prop himself up and not endure the coughing fits he has in his bed. He’s missed school, his marks have taken a hit, and many things in his world – and mine – have had to be put on hold.
Meanwhile, I’m dealing with an internal struggle. Focusing on my biz and my own self-care is extremely important. Essential actually – especially as a single mom. My own physical/mental health as well as my financial health are what keep this family going. And yet since my son’s birth – parenting always comes first. It can be frustrating and stressful when my son’s curve balls hijack my plans. This fall – the illness has not only posed the problem, but many other things in my son’s life have too – where I feel like my life has had to be put on the back burner.
Losing my momentum means losing Focus and Habits that contribute to the success I’m after
Another issue I dislike about being thrown off track, is that I can lose my momentum. It’s much harder to get back into the habits and focus I know contribute to the success I’m after. Which makes it doubly tough.
Acceptance and patience are virtues I don’t always enjoy. It’s a good thing I am forced into practising them, otherwise I doubt I would voluntarily choose them. Would anyone?
When I take a step back and ask ‘what am I to learn from all of this?’ – it allows me to see that I need to hold tightly to my responsibility and keep taking baby steps toward my goals, even as the obstacles present themselves.
I choose responsibility over blame.
Being a victim throws away my power.
I can’t make excuses or blame situations. Being a victim throws away my power. Yet – my mind – in its effort to keep me feeling safe or comfortable, happily tells me to take the foot off the gas whenever it can and remain a ‘poor me’. This is old programming and a pattern I’ve worked hard at overcoming.
One thing I have learned is that there is a big difference between patience and inaction or complacency. Patience is not about waiting; it’s the ability to keep a good attitude while adapting. It’s about working towards and holding faith for what you believe in – no matter the path.
So, in sum:
- Be willing to accept responsibility for where you are
- Be willing to follow your desire regardless of any hurdles
- Adapt – course correct – keep going
- Smile with acceptance (sometimes through gritted teeth – lol)
Let me know if any of this resonates – I love hearing from you!